Caring for ourselves is the number one way to begin caring for others
We are energetic beings impacted by the energy of others and impacting others with our energy.
When we learn how to work with, direct and manage our energy, we can create healthier boundaries, and better identify and meet our needs. This will naturally strengthen our relationships and collaborations, build our confidence and self trust, and help us manifest our desires.
When we show up from a place of overflow we have more to give. And when we are boundaried, it is much easier to keep our cup overflowing because there are no leaks.
When we learn tools to identify and meet our needs and create healthy boundaries we build self trust, and self confidence. The act of prioritizing ourselves (setting the boundaries, giving ourselves what we need) builds self trust. We show ourselves through our actions that we can trust ourselves to have our own backs.
Often, without meaning to, we put ourselves on the bottom of our to-do list. This diminishes our energy, our ability to have energetic boundaries, and often makes us very detrimental and easily effected by our external environment. Leaving ourselves for last also degrades our self trust.
When we are always at the bottom of the list, how can we trust in ourselves to show up for ourselves?
When our needs are left unmet by ourselves how can we trust ourselves to care for ourselves?
This lack of self trust seeps into other areas of our life.
When our needs are consistently unmet, we may begin to act as if it’s other people’s responsibility to take care of us, refill our cups, and prioritize our needs. This can negatively impact our interpersonal relationships.
We may grow to resent people in our circle who do not put our needs first. We may expect everyone to drop everything to care for us.
I am not suggesting we need to do everything alone. Seeking support is a huge key to getting our needs met. But there is a difference between seeking support from professionals or trusted friends, and expecting the grocery store clerk to hold us through a crisis when the kale is sold out.
Not everyone has the capacity or responsibility to fill our cups for us, so learning how to rebuild our energy, and give to ourselves is imperative to strengthening our relationships with others, and enabling us to show up as our best selves.
When we consistently ignore our needs, we may also grow to resent others who model how to set boundaries and take care of themselves, seeing them as selfish. Creating a culture that prioritizes and uplifts self sacrifice.
This narrative that caring for ourselves is selfish is very common.
I believe it is selfish to ignore our needs and then expect everyone else to carry the burden of our lack of self care.
When we prioritize ourselves and meet our needs we can show up for others from a place of overflow. This increases our patience, our compassion, our understanding and our ability to be flexible. Which in turn makes us better collaborators, parents, partners and friends.
When we don’t care for ourselves we show up for others from a place of lack, a place of needing to be filled up. This can increase our irritability, our intolerance, and our defensiveness. Misunderstandings, frustration and rigidity are also common symptoms of an empty cup.
It is imperative that we begin to take responsibility for ourselves.
This does not mean we have to do this alone.
There are so many professionals out there right now helping people to learn skills to prioritize and care for themselves, so they can show up and share their message and unique gifts with the world.
If this sounds like something you want support with, please schedule a free call with me.
I am a Certified Life Coach and a Reiki master Teacher. I’ve worked in the world of energy healing and self care for over 7 years. I support my clients to overcome barriers to caring for and prioritizing themselves so they can feel secure and comfortable sharing their message.
Many of my clients are sensitive and creative souls that then put others first. They struggle with overthinking, overwhelm, perfectionism, and burn-out. This keeps them stuck in inaction and limits their impact.
But these individuals have powerful messages to share, and impactful work to share with the world.
I’m here to help them build confidence and capacity to care for themselves so they can feel comfortable and secure sharing their message and gifts with the world.
Let’s be honest, sharing our unique message and gifts with the world often is very uncomfortable and can trigger all our insecurities.
But when we learn tangible tools to work with our energy, listen to our intuition, and connect with forces larger than ourselves we can confidently express our truth, share our gifts and show up for others from a place of overflow, not from a place of need.
Too often our world tells us that caring for ourselves is selfish. But I believe that caring for ourselves is one the greatest gifts we can give this world, our loved ones, and ourselves.
When we learn to give to and show up for ourselves, we naturally become better at giving to and showing up for others.
The world needs more people showing up from a place of overflow.
The world needs more people who know how to manage and move through overwhelm without lashing out at others.
The world needs more people who know how to love, trust and accept themselves despite imperfections (which are quite natural).
The world needs more people who are able to stay compassionate, understanding, flexible and loving despite external circumstances.
Learn how to be one of those people today.
Book a call with me.
Sending love,
-kristen
