In January I discovered Dannielle Laporte’s The Desire Map. It’s exactly what I needed to begin this year. I’m so grateful that my mom checked it out from the library.
The Desire Map is all about shifting my focus from what I want to do toward how I want to feel.
For most of my life I thought of feelings and emotions as bad. I learned early on that expressing emotions and feelings were connected to what made women “weak.” I was not weak and I did not want to be seen as weak, so I masked, repressed, and rejected my emotions-especially my tears. I often I came off as aloof because I worked so hard to hide my true feelings.
Focusing on how on what to feel has been empowering. My feelings are my birthright.
I’ve spent the last few months focused on defining how I want to feel and what I want to experience. Defining my core desired feelings has been a enlightening experience. By focusing on my feelings, every day and everything I do becomes more fulfilling because there is the possibility that I will feel one of my core desired feelings. I am able to appreciate what I have.
I’ve realized that if we were to share how we want to feel with each other, we may realize how alike we really are.
I want to feel..
purposeful, connected, powerful, inspired.
I want to feel grounded in my purpose, limitless in my capabilities, joyful in my endeavors, grateful for every moment, curious, ever evolving, ever changing. I want to feel peaceful at my core. I want live with integrity. I want to feel connected. I want to have a monumental impact on the word. I to feel hopeful, trusting and loving. I want to feel compassion for others. I want to feel free. I want to feel confident. I want to feel valued and appreciated. I want to feel loved and loving. I want to feel abundant. I want to feel secure. I want to feel thrilled, inspired, and jubilant about what I do.
I want to sit at the center of my life and feel limitless pleasure in being –Danielle Laporte
When I start to judge myself for not having or not doing, I gently redirect my focus toward remembering how I want to feel. This practice increases my gratitude and appreciate because many of my core desired feelings are coming to me in unexpected ways.
I can feel love and compassion amidst ignorance, fear, and hate.
